One of the most common fears of both men and women, straight or gay, is whether or not they'll be able to bond physically with another person and achieve satisfaction and fulfillment in doing so. Well, here are some things to think about...
Step 1
Rethink your attitude a little. Physical intimacy is not a performance or a competition; it can be the most sincere expression of your love for someone else and cement the bond between two people, deepen their intimacy and when agreeable, to produce children.
Step 2
Make time for romance. Light aromatic candles, share a glass or two of wine, and talk to each other. Sit on the couch, put your arm around your partner, and just bask in the intimacy of the moment. Speak about things agreeable, and share a kiss or two. Remember, all this will lead up to a most rewarding and enjoyable shared moment of love.
Step 3
Learn to massage your partner. Using scented oils is a nice touch and it is well known that smells can both relax and arouse. Touching and being touched are both equally important, so learn both to give and receive!
Step 4
Listen to, and talk to your partner in order to learn about their likes and dislikes. Being totally focused on each other is extremely important as it will help to strengthen your relationship both in and out of bed.
Step 5
Never push for something that makes it feel uncomfortable for either you or your partner. It is perfectly acceptable to try something different, as long as you are both happy.
Step 6
Spend plenty of time on foreplay as this is an excellent way to discover what each of you likes. Don't rush things.
Step 7
When you both feel comfortable with each other you can share your more intimate fantasies and maybe even act some of them out! So long as it is fun for both of you, there is no harm in a little experimentation.
Tips
- You will only be a fulfilling partner if you are truly comfortable with the person you are with.
- One night stands can seem like fun but it is only when we develop a physical relationship with someone we love that it becomes truly meaningful.
Warnings
- Never allow yourself to be talked into engaging in any act before you are ready. Take the time to get to know someone before you bond physically with them and be sure it is what you truly want. Never allow anyone to pressure you.
- Make sure to practice safe sex! Make sure a condom is used, to help protect your partner and yourself from any STDs. (Even with a condom, it is still possible to transmit STD's).
