How To Hold Hands

It's true - there are some people who don't know how to hold hands. For those of you who fall into this category, there are two main ways to do it: with your significant other, and with a young child. Let's see how.

Step 1  

Find someone to hold hands with (girlfriend/boyfriend).

Step 2  

Visualize how it will feel. If you are nervous, think of how good it will feel if the other person holds back.

Step 3  

Take a hold of the other person's hand. While sitting, standing or walking next to that person, grasp his or her hand and lightly squeeze.

Step 4  

Wait for a return squeeze. If they squeeze back, most times, they enjoy your company and don't mind you holding their hand.

Step 5  

Use a hand-holding method. There are two approaches to hold another person's hand.  

• You can just grasp their hand and hold it (easy to achieve, but harder to stay held on longer)
• Interlock fingers, which sometimes takes some work, but because the other person is holding on too, you can stay holding hands longer. Most times, it's better if you just start off with doing the first example until you are sure that the other person is okay with holding hands and will hold on.

Step 6  

If you're absolutely sure that the person you held hands with is enjoying your company, look at him or her straight in the eyes and smile subtly. Then, show them that you really like them, by squeezing harder.

Tips

• Most times, the simple grasp of the hand will do but a more "intimate" way to hold hands is the interlocking finger grasp.
• With very young kids, offer them your finger for them to grasp their tiny hand around.
• If you can feel your hand starting to sweat, let go of his or her hand and hold his or her other hand.
• For hot days, consider linking pinkies instead so you get that intimate connection without those pesky sweaty palms.
• Smile a lot. Girls and guys love to see a lovely smile.
• Try not to hold hands with someone you like when you are freezing, because cold hands can be a major turn-off.
• Use the "my hands are so cold" line if you have the problem above. It will give you more of a reason to hold their hand.
• If you and the other person have already had some experience holding hands together, it's a good idea to keep repeating the process and letting each other know when you want to have your hand held.
• You can also ask her whether you can hold her hands or not (it works in real relationships).
• Make sure to keep your hands soft. Apply a hand lotion daily, but not right before holding hands because it can often come off as clammy or cold.
• You can also try the finger trick which I found out. Though this only works if you are sitting down like on a couch or in a movie. Put your finger away from the arm rest if the chair has one. Make sure your whole hand is under. If your partners is too just try and move your hand or finger next to them. Make sure they touch and then soon your partner will get the idea and hold your hand for real.
• If he/she is nervous, try to bring it up in conversation. If they want to, then they'll take the initiative and grab your hand! If you are nervous, then try touching their arm lightly, and slowly progress to holding hands.
• (For girls) In the theater, let your hand drop over to his side on the armrest. He'll notice and get the hint that you want it held.

Warnings

• If they don't hold back, it may be very embarrassing for both you and the person you are with! Make sure they really like you!
• If they pull away then this may be a sign that they are not ready to hold hands so don't keep trying to hold his/her hand!
• If your hands get sweaty it's a big turn off so switch hands! OR don't hold them that long! :p