In most societies around the world, it's traditionally up to the guy to initiate a couple's first kiss. If you're a girl, this takes a lot of pressure off you, but sometimes it can be frustrating if you want to be kissed but your guy is a little too shy to try to kiss you. Here's how to hint that you would like to be kissed.
Step 1
Look approachable. If you put him at ease and let him know you enjoy being with him, he'll usually find the courage to try to kiss you.
Step 2
Break the "touchy touchy barrier." Touch him lightly on the arm or shoulder when you're talking. Just make it a quick, innocent touch and don't make a big deal out of it. Holding hands is also a good way to break the touch barrier. The simple act of touching can strengthen the intimacy between you and him. Sometimes a guy will break the touch barrier, and if you're comfortable with him doing so, touch him back. But don't wait for a guy to make the first move here, because girls can generally get away with breaking the touch barrier earlier in a relationship more than guys can. Also another good way of breaking the touch barrier is to "compare hand sizes" then smile and lace your fingers for a moment. This is a cute way to "break the barrier." If he seems ok with that try holding his hand.
Step 3
Look at his lips. When you're alone with a guy and want to be kissed, make eye contact and then move your gaze briefly down to his lips. Then move your eyes back up to meet his and smile demurely. You don't have to be really obvious about it. Many guys will take the hint, especially if they've read one of the many articles that lists this as a sign that a girl wants to be kissed. If it doesn't work the first time, try again when the time is right.
Step 4
Look Deep into His Eyes! if you look deep into his eyes, as if searching for something, he should get the hint. Make sure he likes you first though; you don't want to be doing this to a random guy. Then it's just creepy. Look innocent and adorable. It helps to wear red lipstick, believe it or not. It will make him notice your lips more. If he notices your lips, its more likely he'll start thinking about kissing you!
Step 5
Move in. You have to be close to each other to kiss, and the less distance a guy has to travel to kiss you, the easier it is for him to give it a try. So get close. When the moment seems right, put your face close to his and look at him expectantly. If you're brave, you could try moving in as though you're going to kiss him. Hopefully he'll take the hint and kiss you, but if he doesn't you can give him a playful little kiss on the cheek.
Step 6
Talk about it. If the guy isn't taking your subtle hints, bring up kissing in conversation. For example, if you're watching a movie together and see an on-screen kiss, mention that it's "so romantic " or something to that effect. If the guy is really shy, you might just want to put it on the line and tell him that you'd like him to kiss you.
Step 7
Kiss him. There's no law that says the guy has to initiate the kiss, and some guys--especially if they've never kissed a girl before--just won't take your hints. If you want to kiss him, just go ahead and do it. But make sure he is ready for it. Have fun!?
Tips
- If you are cuddling with him and you suddenly make eye contact and he breaks it to look at your lips then he wants to kiss you
- If the guy is reserved in any way, he probably won't move in for the kiss or accept it if you kiss him. Don't push your hints if this is the case. He probably knows exactly what you're doing.
- Try smoothing out his mustache, lightly touching his lip ring or wiping away an imaginary strand of hair from his face. While doing that purposefully look at his lips and compliment them, but only offhandedly without being too obvious.
- If the guy seems to be talking a lot, especially if he's talking quickly, he could be nervous because he's thinking about kissing you. In this case, an old trick is to tell him, "You talk too much." Say it playfully and with a smile, and maybe even briefly put your finger to his lips as though you're "shushing" him. And then kiss him lightly on his lips and pause for a moment; at this point the two of you should be really close and he will most probably initiate a kiss.
- One way to get a guy to move closer is to pretend to shake as though you're cold. If he doesn't get it right away, then rub your hands up and down against your arms; this will get his attention and maybe hint to him what you're trying to do. If still he doesn't snuggle up to you, you'll have a good excuse to snuggle up to him.
- Don't be too heartbroken if you don't get a kiss. The guy may just not be ready yet, or he may not like you in that way.
- Sometimes the first kiss can be a bit disappointing, especially if a guy doesn't have any kissing experience. If your guy can't kiss well, read about how to deal with a bad kisser.
- Men are often afraid of crossing the line because they are not sure if they have read the hints right! It can be easier for all (after building up the mood!) if you are clear about what you want, no hinting, no hidden meanings etc. Put your hands around his waist and say "I want to kiss you now" or something similar.
- If you're watching a movie with a romantic point in it and you are comfortable with touching him, softly brush your fingertips over his cheek bone while drawing his face near yours. Make eye contact with him if possible and he should get the hint.
- If the guy is a little too enthusiastic when kissing, just gently but firmly push him away by applying force to his chest. Gently though. If it's the guy's first, you don't want to ruin it for him forever.
Warnings
- Telling a guy he talks too much may result in you annoying him. If he likes to talk, or thought he was actually trying to have a conversation with you, and is totally oblivious to what you are trying to do, he may take offense, and think that you don't care about what he has to say. Use this technique with caution.
- Never feel pressured to go farther than you want to go. It's OK to just want a kiss, and you should say "no" to anything that makes you uncomfortable. Remember also to respect the guy's wishes if he just doesn't want to kiss you.
- If your kiss isn't as romantic as you had hoped, don't worry! Lots of people have awkward beginnings to relationships. If this is the big one, then you'll have plenty more opportunities for kissing (in other words, it doesn't have to be perfect).
- Many guys view hints as overly complicated, especially in this day and age of sexual harassment lawsuits. Often, the best approach is to come right out and say it.
- Most guys would prefer an honest-to-god request. Not a sublte hint, a request. Just ask, and its probably going to happen.
