How To Get a Girlfriend in Middle School | Dating Advice Guide

Get to know her

When you see her don't make it a mission to get in her face. Give some time for her to settle in and compliment her on something (nice shoes, hair, etc.) and walk away. This Confirms that you like the girl but that you are not like the other guys that say things like "nice butt" or "shake dat thang". The girl that you actually like could get the wrong signal and it's all downhill from there. Also, don't use corny pick-up lines. I've heard them many times before and girls will just think you're immature or in it for the wrong reasons.

Get to know her. Ask her what she likes to do, and what some of her favorites are. Tell her about yourself and be open with her.

Get a basic friendship with her. Make sure she knows who you are or it will never work. Don't be shy either.

Find out if you're in any classes with her. If you're not, then sit at her table at lunch, but don't be a stalker. Tell some jokes and smile.

Don't be shy, because chances are, she's just as nervous as you. Don't put all the work on her, because it just makes it harder on her.

Try to get her phone number just in case you may need it. If you're in class together, ask for her number because you "have a few questions about today's notes." Don't rudely ask her for her number as she walks by with her friends. That will make her think you're just another guy trying to get into her pants. If she doesn't want to give it to you, say something like, "well, just incase you change your mind, you can have mine instead." and write down your number on a piece of paper and give it to her.

Make eye contact, and smile at her when you see her in the hall. Eye contact tells her that you are both paying attention and that you are interested.

Find her when she's alone and where it's somewhere quiet. Ask her if she wants to go out with you. She'll probably be nervous at first but give her a minute. Don't get your friend to come with you, or, worse, to do it for you.

Find out about her

Talk to her, and see if you share the same interests. She'll think you're cool if you do some of the same things she does. After you get to know her and make friends with her, she should begin to say "hey" and speak with you every so often.

Find out how she feels about you. She won't go out with you if she doesn't like you. A good way to find out is to talk to her friends. There is no need to "make the friend promise not to tell"; this only makes the whole situation feel uncomfortable and silly. They will probably tell her anyways, and on top of that tell her you wanted to hide it from her. That would not be good.

Ask with confidence.. but don't be cocky. You need to show her you're comfortable with her and that you're ready for the commitment.

Flirt! Smile at her, wave at her when she comes into a room, but don't give her a thumbs-up if she gets a question right in class because it may seem too childish. Talk to her, but not only in a friendly way. However, if she looks tired, don't say, "You look tired today." Most people think thats a 'polite' way of saying you look like sh*t.

LISTEN If you want to be able to get along you have got to listen when she is talking and respond in a thoughtful way. Not just "yes" or "uh uh" but more like something where you actually might put in input. If you respond boringly she will think you are bored with her and she could try to move on.

Be there for her. When she has something on her mind, ask her if she wants to talk about it. When you know she has a sports game, a dance recital, or anything like that, go and watch. Infact, go to one of her practices once and a while. It will show her you arent just there for the game, but you're there for her. Wave at her from the stands.. but not at a bad timing where you could mess her up.

Ask yourself if you like her for the person she is. This means personality, interests, and so on. Of course, you might not know these things about her yet. If all you know about her is how she looks, then looks alone are fine for now. But as you move on, looks cannot be the only reason you want to date her, neither can popularity.

Look for chances to talk to her. When you have one, throw some humor into the conversation. But don't just change the subject to one you like. Remember, you are already interested in her. Your goal, is to get her to be interested in you. This means you want to talk about subjects she likes, as long as you are able to make it worth her time to talk to you. If you can't, try a subject you both like; but remember what she likes is more important than what you like.

On your first date with her, take her some place nice and surprise her with some flowers or something like that. Hint: Find out what flowers or foods she likes. Don't automatically give her roses. Not only can they be expensive, some girls hate them.

Read her body language. If she feels uncomfortable about something, guide the conversation to something else. However, don't stick to super safe subjects like what she did that day. If she stops talking, see what happens when you restart the conversation with a new subject. Whatever happens, always pay attention to her response.

Show that you are a good sport That doesn't mean "good at sports"; it means "a good sport". If you two were in a contest, for whatever reason, compliment her even if she wins. Remember, you want to win her heart, not the contest. Do not be too competitive, it is an immediate put down. This means you want to keep some things balanced. If you are exceptionally good at something, and she is not, let her beat you once in a while. Not enough to make yourself look weak, but enough to show you can handle it when you fail. And if YOU'RE the one failing, don't make a big deal about it. Laugh it off and keep trying.

Pay attention to even the smallest details about her. If she mentions her favorite food, or drink, cook/buy it for her if she comes to your place for lunch or supper. If she mentions her favorite flower or chocolate, send some to her one day. She'll think its incredibly sweet how you remembered.

When she makes her decision about if she wants to get together, respect her decision even if she says no. And if she says yes, pat yourself on the back, you have succeeded! And remember, if she says no, never throw a tantrum, that makes you look like a child, just say, 'that's OK, but, can we still be friends?' This multiplies your chances if you ask her out again. If she says yes, don't go up to your friends 5 minutes later and give them high fives and act like you're the man. Thats a major turnoff.

Tips

When you are good friends and you're trying to say bye, instead of plain old bye say something that will give her a clue (i'll miss you,sweet dreams, sleep tight). But do not say love you with friends, thats too strong.

Be friends with her friends, that way her friends can tell her that you're a nice guy.

Be nice to her and help her out when you can, girls think its sweet.

Be yourself!

Don't be afraid to call her BEAUTIFUL! Girls would rather you call her beautiful than sexy or hot.

Don't be shy.

Don't overdo trying to make her laugh or talking about your interests.

Give her little hints every once in a while. If she likes you, she'll start putting two and two together, and get the big hint.

If she seems upset, ask her if she wants to talk. If she doesnt seem to want to, give her alone time.

If she talks to you more than usual and you're not YET friends with her, you don't need any tips. You got her in your trap.

If you get rejected, tell her that you understand. Either move on or start off as friends and build your relationship.

If you really are so shy you can't look confident in person, try starting off this way. Hint that you like her by slipping notes into her locker. If she likes you, even the subtlest hint will work, because she will want to believe you like her.

Make sure you're not sweaty or smelly while you're talking to her.

Never be fake. Girls can tell and she won't like you for YOU.

Never give up! unless she turns you down repeatedly in public, then you seem desprate

Never put yourself down, there's always another chance.

When you catch her staring at you, give a dashing smile; it will make her blush.

Give her a compliment for a job well-done.

dont try to act cool because when you do you act really nerdy from a girls point of veiw just be how you are.

DO NOT. act differently when youre with her alone , than you do when you're with her and other people. If you have an extreme problem with PDA, talk to her so she doesn't think youre embarassed to be with her.

When you get her to go out with you don't go overbord just take her to a casual place.

Ask her for her number casually, chances are she wants your number too.

If you like the new girl, become friends with her, talk to her. If you ask for her number or to hang out, she will be flattered. New girls think that they are not equal to other students that have been going to the school for a longer time.

try sitting with her at lunch

don't drop the whole 'I like you' bomb at one time, let her work into it.

If you're just TOO nervous to ask her out, text her, or call her to ask her out. It may show that you're nervous, but believe me, shes just as nervous as you.

Important Notes

There is no reason to be afraid of going out with a girl who has big breasts, is deliberately sexy, or likes to flirt with guys. However, it is important these things not be the only reason for liking her. Physical attraction may be the start of a relationship, but by itself it cannot make the relationship last. Unless you also like her as a person you're only wasting her time as well as your own. She might not blame you personally, depending on the kind of girl she is; but if you're only with her for her looks, expect to be dumped as soon as a guy with more serious feelings comes her way.

Don't give yourself up for her.

Talk! Instant messaging and Google talk are "OK" but not as good as in person. As much as is practical, talk to her in person more than you talk to her online. It is a matter of quality. Talking in person is a higher quality kind of talking, and is worth the cost in effort when ever you can afford the effort.

Always listen. Listen when you are talking. Listen, listen, and listen. Oh, and don't forget...listen!

Timing is everything Although it will matter less once the relationship is established, in the beginning the right time, right place, and right mood can make all the difference in how she reacts. This is especially true of choosing the best time for "turning points". Example, when you ask her out for the "first date", or when you ask her to go from "just friend" to "girlfriend".

Patience is a huge virtue in flirting and getting a girlfriend. Don't let yourself get dull if it's taking a while.

If she is short on money for a snack at the concession stand, or for something you find out she wants or likes, pay the difference for her or pay for it all the way.

Notice things she likes.

Notice her favorite foods.

Never give her things she is allergic to. And don't expect to get away with saying you didn't know. Of course, saying you didn't know is better than nothing; but if you were paying attention to the steps above you should already know what she is allergic to and what to avoid.

Never give other girls more attention than her. Also when telling girls you like them, dont seem so aggressive; say it nice and gentle.

Go shopping with her. Buy her something. Almost every girl likes shopping. If they don't then do something else with her. Make her know you like her, but do not make this a date yet. Make it a kind of pre-date.

Warnings

Girlfriends are not a necessity. You don't need a girlfriend to be happy. Enjoy having friends and being yourself.

Enjoy your time with her but don't become obsessed!

You don't have to make the first date big, otherwise she'll think you're desperate, and you don't want that (e.x. If she likes baseball, go to a high school or middle school game and buy her something simple like pizza or candy!)

Don't look at her behind or her breasts all the time because that is seriously rude, wrong, and most schools consider this as sexual harassment. Sexual harassment is a serious subject that is not taken lightly!

No freak dancing at school dances. She most likely will think that you are a creep. Even if she is okay with it, I would be willing to bet your school isn't.

Don't ask her out immediately! She might get the impression that you only want to go out with her to impress your friends.

Don't touch her in a way that might make her feel uncomfortable-because the date will be over right then and there.

Don't kiss and tell. Well, you can tell some, but make sure she doesnt end up going to school the next day and everyones staring at her, and don't tell your friends just to be cool.

Don't attempt to make out with her on the first date-it's a real turn-off.

Don't do anything that might hurt her feelings!

Don't use pick-up lines, they are really stupid and childish.

Don't talk to her every 5 minutes, it is clingy and weird, give her some space and time with her friends.

Don't avoid her if she says no and you are no longer friends.

DO NOT send one of your friends to talk to her for you. Lack of communication is not good

Don't ask her out after only talking to her once.

Don't be afraid of her.

If you are having an special moment like let's say you're alone outside before you say goodbye to her at night after a date, Don't say you are so hot to her. If it's special then she wants to hear she's beautiful.

If she has a boyfriend, do NOT try to take her away from him. You'll just get in a fight.

Take the time to show her you care. If she is feeling sad do not steer clear, it's your opportunity to give her comfort.

If she doesn't tell her friends, or doesn't want to be seen with you, she might not like you.

If she says no, don't go and ask out another girl right after. Girls will think you're a player, or that you only care about having a girlfriend and don't really like the girls. Give it 2 weeks before you ask someone else out.

Make sure you smell good. Don't have bad breath, shower every morning or night, wear deoderant, brush your teeth, and don't overdo the cheap cologne either.

Never ask her out in front of a crowd or right before something big and important, such as her drama or a singing performance or whatever. If you distract her with the question, she might mess up that event, and feel it's your fault for the bad timing. Remember, you want to be someone who is pleasant to have around, not someone who is or creates problems for her.

NEVER send anything expensive like a diamond ring, and if you do she will think you are obsessed with her.

Never act gross, don't burp and fart or make any other wierd sounds. It really isnt cool. This can make her think that you're kind of weird and immature. Plus this can make chances for even being friends harder.

Don't make it seem like you only want to be friends, or else thats all you'll ever be.

Don't ever ask her out online! It will make you look like you dont love her enough to call her or ask her in person.