Even if you really like a guy, you don't want your relationship with (or crush on) him to rule your life. If you want to keep your distance, here are some ways to keep from obsessing over a guy.
Step 1
Don't tell your friends about your crush. If you tell them, they will encourage this influence. For example, they often will nudge you when he walks by or spread newly acquired gossip about him. If you want to get over a guy, it's best not to have your friends constantly pushing you in his direction!
Step 2
Forgive yourself - and him for not liking you and you for falling for him.
Step 3
Make friends with lots of other guys.
Step 4
Take up a hobby, something else to occupy your mind. You have a life outside of this guy, so explore it! Get to know the world around you.
Step 5
Keep your perspective. He is not the start or the end of the world.
Step 6
Make a list of your ideal guy and visualize the first meeting of your husband.
Step 7
Play matchmaker and set up dates for your friends.
Step 8
Get a diary and write about your obsession to get it out of your mind.
Step 9
Find a responsible adult (preferably not a parent) or a non-gossipy friend to talk about things with.
Step 10
If you ask him/her out and you get rejected, remember that if he/her had said yes than it would have hurt more as a break-up than just rejection.
Tips
- If none of the above works and you find yourself desperate to stop liking him, then here is a tough, fool proof plan: Go up to him and tell him that you like him. If he doesn’t like you back, then hopefully your infatuation will eventually go away with time. If he does like you then you will live happily ever after.(well maybe not happily ever after, but at least try it! Trust me it'll work!)
- Don't call or text the guy too much, it scares them off and it makes you look needy and insecure.
- Not to mention avoid him if possible and if he's not your friend and just some guy you had a crush on, then move on. As well as avoiding and or ignoring him, but DON'T if he's your friend. Sometimes this will help but not always. It's hard at first but once you start and all, you'll be better off and might of succeeded in getting over him. DONT talk to him stay away dont talk to him unless if necessary
Warnings
- Rejection is hard, but it's not the end of the world.
- Though many people think that "getting a new crush will help" helps it really doesn't. It just gives you someone else to like and need to stop liking again next month. Nobody really wants that now do they?
- Don't become one of those girls who is always obsessing over boys, no guy wants to hang around that kind of girl, it's not attractive. What is attractive is a girl who has her own life and doesn't mope over boys. This doesn't mean you can't be excited, hurt or upset, just don't base your whole life around them!
