Have a crush on a beautiful girl? Go for it! Here's how to make her feel special and ask her out.
Step 1
Establish a more-than-just-friends relationship but don't overdo it, like thinking about friend-with-benefits relationship. Start by asking her for something to play on, like if you are in her class, ask her for a pencil or eraser. If she's slightly interested, she might play about, teasing you for it. Don't worry, it's not that she doesn't like you. She expects you to play along, so maybe walk off in mock sulk, don't do it too heavily though. She might start to think you are weird if you do. If she comes by you and asks you who you like, you know you are on the right track. She is probably just as nervous as you just say to her you will have to wait and see so she wants to get that type of approach as well. This probably means that she likes you, and your job just got much easier. If you are not good at this stuff, just talk to her friends, walk past her a lot, or just tell her she did a good job at something. Girls love compliments so....
Step 2
Compliment her, but be careful. Unless they are desperate, they might think you are desperate or making something too obvious. So maybe tell her you like her new hairstyle but then go behind her and mess around with it, spice it up. She'll like your courage to go play about with her hair but make sure she doesn't have dandruff or lice because although you might not be too bothered, she will get embarrassed and scared to go near you. Also, don't lay it on like you've seen in the movies: "I like your handbag.". No guy, in school, will honestly care about a handbag. Use your brains. Something you might truly like you can compliment on.
Step 3
Start a ball game (not literally). Be a little far away and look at her, admire her. She'll catch your gaze and look at you. Look away suddenly but keep an eye out for her looking back at you. If she is, get up and walk past her, possibly giving her a little smile as you go.
Step 4
Have chats with her. Ask her if she has any pets and find out some interesting things. Make sure she knows you inside out as well.
Step 5
Move in closer, be alone and look down. Look up at her eyes, look lost in her world for a second, and then say "I,(pause),like you. So...(cough)..Will you go out with me" While you say this look down. Look up when you say 'me' and smile questioningly. If that isn't your style, there is another way to ask a girl out. All you have to do is walk up (make sure she's alone), and ask her to go out with you in a confident (but relaxed!) manner. You get points for trying.
Step 6
Don't try too hard, girls aren't stupid, they can tell when you get desperate. Be relaxed and confident in yourself.
Step 7
Don't just become friends with her, become friends with all of her friends, as relationships are made and broken on her friends' opinions.
Step 8
If she says no, she means NO. Just back off for awhile, leave her to cool down, but don't give up complete hope.
Step 9
Be confident, not cocky. The difference is there, and very noticeable for girls. Make jokes and be self-confident; women love it when men make them laugh.
Step 10
When the time comes to ask her out, wait for the opportune moment. Trust your instincts; they will tell you when the time is right. As mentioned earlier, it's probably best not to do it in front of her friends or in front of your friends. It's easier for both of you if you are alone.
Step 11
If she says "I'll think about it" it's not a good sign, although she could just be nervous, or caught up in the moment, and she's being careful not to make a stupid mistake. Don't bug her about it, let it go a few days - if she doesn't bring it up again, it's a no.
Step 12
Don't ask her out as a dare, or as a joke - this can really hurt a girl's feelings. Be sure that you are doing it because you want to, if you don't you could really become known as a jerk.
Step 13
"If you see any facial expressions, like an eye raise, make sure you say, "it's okay if you say no."
Step 14
If she turns away for you asking her out, develop a better relationship, or maybe she is just not the one for you.
Step 15
Just be yourself. If you try to be someone else and if there is some leak or you get busted, you will probably make her feel like you are a faker.
Tips
- Do a little work and find out if she likes someone else
- Try not to stare. That fits under the heading of "creepy". And her friends will give her a load of crap. Trust me, I'm a girl, and it's just girl nature to make fun of the liked girl. If this happens, she'll probably avoid you. Just lay off a bit.
- Don't immediately open up to her about everything when you've just met her and say, "I can't talk to anyone like I can talk to you." That's just weird, and she won't hang out with you anymore. Ask her if she wants to hear secrets when you have progressed to the "We're really good friends," stage.
- Don't send someone else to do it for you or she will just think you are shy.
Warnings
- Don't ask her in front of friends, especially if she is shy (they will make fun of you).
- Don't tell the world if she's not ready. She might have some things she has to tie up first.
- Don't ask super invasive questions about her. Be nice, not a stalker.
- Don't be creepy about asking questions. If you get too personal, a girl will shut up like a clam.
- If you want to ask a girl out to a dance, disco etc and she says no, do not immediately go and ask someone else out. This will lower your social levels and girls will not want to go out with you because they will think you are desperate.
- Don't come on too strong or it will creep her out.
- Don't call her a name even if you are kidding.
- If another guy starts talking to her do not walk away or show jealousy
